A 21-Day Journey to Awaken
Through the Mirror of Relationship
Starts November 20th
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”
– Rumi
Every human heart yearns to feel it.
Unconditional love.
The wholeness, completeness, and peace we intuit it will bring.
Yet the core hindrance to love is not outside us. It’s within.
Our ego, with its ancient survival patterns, constantly pulls us into ways of thinking and relating to others (friends, family, colleagues, partners, even strangers) that create disconnection, pain, and struggle:
Comparison and competition, blame and defensiveness, avoidance and people-pleasing, approval-seeking, control and reactivity, judgment and resentment, rigid expectations and the need to be right, controlling, lashing out, criticizing, collapsing.
The ego perceives these ways of relating will give us safety, but in truth, they separate us from love.
It seems like a paradox, but we often find that the harder we fixate on getting love, validation, or worthiness outside ourselves, the more elusive our experience of love becomes.
As we go through cycles of tightening - clinging, rejecting, defending, demanding, withdrawing, pretending - we begin to armour our hearts, building walls to feel safe.
Yet those same walls become the cage that separates us from ourselves and each other, and from the love we wanted all along.
The walls the ego builds to protect you, in reality, imprison you. But the deeper truth is this: Love starts with you.
The wisdom teachings of the world all point to a central truth:
Love isn’t something we need to seek; it’s our nature.
It’s who we are.
As Ram Dass reminds us, “You are loving awareness.”
Yet embodying that loving presence is a skill.
It’s a living practice of noticing and dissolving the barriers that get in the way.
And there is no better training ground for that than our relationships.
They are the perfect mirrors, reflecting where we close down, where we contract in fear, where we get triggered, and where we are still learning to open our hearts to life.
When we stop trying to change others and begin tending to our own inner state, we shift from reactivity to responsibility, from control to compassion, from anxiety to agency.
That’s the turning point, and the beginning of true freedom in love.
Practicing love is one of the most profound and transformative spiritual paths available to us. It asks us to face and transform our own egoic patterns, moving beyond the walls of judgment and separation.
And here’s the paradox: When we learn to be love - when we show up with steadiness, patience, and presence - our relationships begin to transform.
They reflect that love back to us. Connection deepens. Harmony grows. Interactions become more authentic, fulfilling, and life-giving.
By taking responsibility for our own inner state, we become the source of the very love we’ve been searching for all along.
Becoming Love is a 21-day mindfulness-based course designed to help you use all of your relationships – loved ones, strangers, co-workers, even the difficult people – as a path of personal and spiritual growth.
Carefully crafted to be as impactful as possible with minimal time investment, the course includes a 15–20-minute video teaching each day, along with a relational practice to take into your daily life.
🔸 A 15–20-minute video teaching: blending meditation and teaching.
🔸 A daily practice to take into life: each day you’ll have something practical to apply in your way of relating to others that day.
🔸 A reflection or journaling prompt: to deepen your learning and support integration.
When we stop trying to change others and begin tending to our own inner state, we shift from reactivity to responsibility, from control to compassion, from anxiety to agency.
That’s the turning point, and the beginning of true freedom in love.
Melli knows that when it comes to love and relationships, plenty of questions naturally arise – and that being supported in this practice makes all the difference. That’s why you’ll receive generous opportunities for both coaching and live connection throughout the program.
💛 Weekly live coaching & community practice calls: Four different call times per week across multiple time zones, offering a space to learn, share experiences, and practise together in a supportive group setting. These sessions are designed to help you deepen your understanding, stay inspired, and feel connected. Full details of call times in the FAQ below.
💛 An “all questions answered” guarantee: Every participant who signs up for this course will have every question answered. If you can’t attend live calls, simply email your questions anytime during the course and Melli will reply promptly and personally.
Jack Kornfield, clinical psychologist & globally renowned meditation teacher, best-selling author
“Melli offers skillful tools, transformative practices, and wise perspectives, offered with care and heart.”
Rick Hanson, Ph.D. neuropsychologist and New York Times best-selling author
“Drawing on good science, spiritual wisdom, and her own hard-won lessons, Melli O’Brien is a trustworthy guide to healing the past, living fully in the present, and building a better future.”
Tara Brach, psychologist, best-selling author, and renowned meditation teacher
“Melli O'Brien offers a beautiful pathway with her Deep Resilience Method… grounded in timeless spiritual wisdom, contemporary psychology, science, and her rich experience as an educator and coach.”
Matt Dickinson, CEO of Mindful Magazine
“This course could truly change your life. Melli shows you how to access an inner strength you didn't know you had, and use it to live with purpose, empowerment, and wisdom no matter what life is throwing your way.”
Sharon Salzberg, New York Times best-selling author, globally renowned meditation teacher
“Timely and empowering. Her work blends research-backed science, wisdom teachings, practical exercises, and Melli’s experience as an educator and coach. She guides you on a journey from fear to inner strength.”
Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D. psychologist, best-selling author
“Melli is a powerful guide to navigating life’s toughest challenges. I love the blend of practical skills, scientific insights, and timeless wisdom—Melli offers a great toolkit for cultivating resilience, clarity, and purpose.”
Melli O’Brien is a globally renowned mindfulness teacher, best-selling author, and co-founder of Mindfulness.com.
Her work has touched the lives of over a million people worldwide, and in 2025 she was named one of the most powerful women in the mindfulness movement by Mindful magazine.
Melli specialises in a transformative framework for awakening through adversity called The Deep Resilience Method — a powerful path that helps people turn life’s challenges into catalysts for strength, wisdom, and spiritual growth.
(That's little more that the cost of one session with a psychologist for tools you can use to coach yourself for the rest of your life)
& there is a money back guarantee.
*Early bird offer includes 'deep resilience relationship pack' valued at $150 + live calls and an 'all questions asked guarantee' valued at $135pp. Offer end November 7th 2025
Each week Melli will offer four community coaching and practice calls live
on Zoom. Recordings available within 24 hours of each call.
Every day for 21 days you’ll get a 15 minute lesson giving you insights and practical tools to positively transform your mind, relationships and life
Valued at $150. A pack of powerful meditations and coaching audios to grow love from the inside out, coach your through tough relationship moments plus frameworks for difficult conversations
Rare small group access to Melli on live calls as well as ongoing support on email. Regular access all the way through your course.
So you can keep visual reminders
And work through exercises in the way that works best for you
Come back as many times as you need to to deepen your learning and keep growing at
your own pace, wherever you go
"Thank you so much Melli, for your beautiful course. I’m so glad I signed up for it. It’s the best decision I’ve made all year! These practices you’ve taught us are so simple and beautiful, but are absolutely life changing. I’ll be teaching them to my kids! Thank you with all my heart Melli. The work you’re doing is incredibly important and I am eternally grateful to you"
—Jodie Cameron - Course Participant
The program is designed to take 15-20 minutes a day for 21 days. We understand life can get hectic, so our format allows flexibility. We encourage you to stick to the 21 day timeframe as best you can because it’s proven to keep you on track and give you maximum benefit. However, you’ll have lifetime access. You can always pick it back up when you’re ready.
At least a little bit yes. The program includes a short meditation as part of most of the daily lessons so to get the best out of the program its best to follow along and participate fully. The bonus audio section also gives you optional extra meditations you can add to the course content if you want to go deeper. Each practice is a specifically designed training exercise blending meditation with positive neuroplasticity training and other evidence-based methods. Doing this daily practice is fundamental to creating the lifelong shifts in mental-emotional and spiritual strength that this program can give you.
Calls run from Tuesday 25th to Tuesday 9th
Each 60-minute Zoom call includes a short guided practice followed by time for questions, coaching, and community sharing.
You’re welcome to join any call time that best suits your schedule.
Wednesdays & Fridays 7:00 am and 1:00 pm
Los Angeles (PST): Tuesdays & Thursdays 12:00 pm and 6:00 pm
New York (EST): Tuesdays & Thursdays 3:00 pm and 9:00 pm
Tuesdays & Thursdays 8:00 pm
Tuesdays & Thursdays 9:00 pm
All calls are recorded, and replays are available if you can’t attend live — so you’ll never miss out on the guidance or community connection.
Even if you can’t make the live calls, you’ll still receive full support throughout the program. You can email your questions at any time during the 21 days, and Melli will personally reply within 24-48 hours.
Every participant is guaranteed to have their questions answered, so you can move through the course feeling guided, supported, and confident every step of the way.
We’ll get back to you as soon as possible.